|Danielle's dating while geeky.|
This is one of the great questions when you’re Dating While Geeky. We’ve had two great dates, and we’re in the middle of our third. So far we’ve talked about work and Mac computers and wine and the great city we live in. He asks me out for Saturday. But it’s our annual Harry Potter Birthday Party. I’m in a Meetup group that celebrates it every year. I have had it on my calendar for months. We’re going to play Quiddich. I’m going to eat the creative HP-themed cake one of our members makes. I’m going to try to hide from Harry Potter charades. And I’m going to make silly jokes based on spells when my drink is across the room from me. Accio drink!
But there doesn’t seem to be a very good answer to my question. Once I told a guy while we chatted on the phone trying to set up a date. It went something like this:
Him: So what are you up to today?
Him: For what?
Me: Making blankets for the Harry Potter Alliance.
Him: *long pause * Harry Potter? Like in the movies?
Or do I wait until we’ve been involved for a while? That won’t work now, though, because I have a Time Turner, a wand, and art of Hermione kissing Ron before his first Quiddich match on display in my living room. (The Gryffindor scarf is in the closet.) But from some previous experience, even dating another Geek won’t prevent weirdness. Apparently Harry Potter is a “soft” fandom, and not “geeky” enough. (Geek elistism – there’s a topic for another day.)
Harry Potter Movie Re-View, that spending time with the friends I have made through my HP Meetup group – are very important to me. They are a big part of my life these days. Geeking out with them over Potter minutiae is one of my favorite things. The Potterverse has been there through a lot of tough times.
But I guess this is one of the hazards of Dating While Geeky – that a potential suitor won’t get it. Or worse, will scoff at it. But then maybe that’s the answer – tell them, and if they don’t get it, I will know they don’t get me.
Danielle K. is a 30-something Harry Potter fan living near D.C. She enjoys photography and long walks on the beach. Dorogaya@hotmail.com, @dorogaya26.